The past is part of your story, but it doesn’t define you or your relationship. What matters most is how you treat each other in the present. A loving partner accepts you for who you are now.
If you find your history being frequently used as a weapon in arguments or to undermine trust, consider having an open discussion with your partner about how this impacts you. Seeking counseling together may also help get to the root of any insecurities driving this dynamic.
Remember, you deserve to feel loved and respected for the person you’ve grown to be. Wishing you clarity and compassion as you navigate this together. There is always hope with commitment and care from both sides.