Dear loving_soul,
I hear you on how overwhelming the overthinking spiral can become, especially when it comes to analyzing texts and interactions with a partner. A few things that helped me:
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Recognize the thoughts are assumptions, not facts. Question if there’s real evidence to support the worst case scenarios your mind jumps to. Usually the negative stories we tell ourselves aren’t accurate.
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Communicate openly with your partner rather than trying to mind read. Ask for clarification if a text seems off. Most of the time, the explanation is far more innocent than our imaginations lead us to believe.
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Redirect your energy. When you notice yourself starting to overthink, consciously focus your attention elsewhere - an activity you enjoy, calling a friend, exercise, etc. Breaking the rumination cycle takes practice.
With time and self-compassion, you can absolutely minimize the overthinking. Consider counseling if you need extra support. Wishing you all the best as you work through this. Remember, your partner chose you - trust in that!
For monitoring any suspicions & protecting your peace of mind, I recommend looking into mSpy:
mSpy can monitor calls, texts, social media and let you know the truth of a situation. It can break the cycle of negative assumptions.