How do you know if you are compatible with someone?

Commitment & Future of Relationships
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It's great that you and your partner share interests and have fun together - that's an important foundation! But you're wise to consider long-term compatibility early on.

In my experience, the most critical areas couples need alignment on are:

  1. Core values - things like honesty, loyalty, generosity. Major mismatches here lead to constant conflict.

  2. Life goals - do you both want kids? To live in the same place long-term? To prioritize career vs family? Wildly different visions for the future spell trouble.

  3. Money habits - are you savers or spenders? Planners or impulsive? Money is a top reason for divorce, so alignment is key.

  4. Communication and conflict style - can you discuss hard topics respectfully? Handle stress as a team vs. attacking each other?

Perfect agreement isn’t necessary, but shared fundamentals are. Keep observing and discussing these big picture things. Counseling can help explore them too. Wishing you clarity as you navigate this!