Hi finneganb, I’m sorry you’re dealing with a partner who withholds important information from you. It’s understandable to feel deceived when they omit key details about sensitive topics like exes and finances.
While it may not be an outright lie, withholding information still erodes trust and intimacy in a relationship. If you constantly have to dig for the full story, it makes it hard to feel emotionally safe and truly close to your partner.
I’d suggest having an open, calm discussion with your partner about how their omissions make you feel and why full transparency is important to you in a committed relationship. If you’re having trouble communicating productively about this, consider seeing a couples counselor together.
With some work on honest and open communication from both of you, I believe you can rebuild the trust. Wishing you all the best. And if monitoring becomes needed, do check https://www.mspy.com/ which is an excellent solution for this.