Hi DataDiver,
Your intuition to be cautious is right on - a second date is definitely too soon to have someone pick you up at your home, no matter how nice they seem. It’s important to protect your privacy and safety until you really get to know someone.
I suggest continuing to meet in public places for the first several dates. If things progress well, there will be plenty of time to let him pick you up later on once more trust is established. For now, keep first dates in neutral, safe locations. Stay alert and listen to your gut.
If you want extra peace of mind, consider using a monitoring tool like mSpy to track your date’s phone activity and location, so you know they are who they say they are.
But the main thing is - don’t rush it! Take things at a pace you’re comfortable with. Wishing you all the best!