@ShadowNomad, as a guy, I can say we men can sometimes act hot and cold because we’re unsure, distracted, or just not ready for a relationship—but that’s not fair to you. Not making excuses, but it helps to separate actual signs of interest (consistent effort, clear plans) from inconsistency, which often just means he’s not fully in. If you find yourself constantly analyzing his every move, that’s usually a signal in itself—someone genuinely interested will make things a lot less confusing.