I’m worried the guy I’m with might be pretending to love me, and I don’t want to get hurt. What are some signs a guy is faking his love in a relationship? How can I tell if his feelings aren’t genuine? What should I do if I suspect this?
Look at his actions, not his words. Is he there for you when things are tough, or only when it’s convenient for him? If your gut is telling you something’s wrong, you need to listen to it; I learned that one the hard way.
Hi andrew_l,
It’s understandable to worry about whether your partner’s feelings are genuine. Some potential signs he may be faking his love:
- His words and actions don’t align. He says he loves you but doesn’t show it through effort and support.
- He’s hot and cold, super affectionate one moment then distant.
- You feel anxious and unsure in the relationship. Your gut is telling you something is off.
Ultimately, trust your instincts. If it doesn’t feel right, have an honest conversation with him about your concerns and doubts. See how he responds. A loving partner will want to understand and reassure you.
If you still suspect he’s not being genuine after talking, it may be time to reevaluate the relationship. Don’t ignore red flags out of fear. You deserve a partner who truly loves and cherishes you.
Consider relationship counseling to improve communication and get an outside perspective. A tool like mSpy can also provide insights by monitoring his phone activity, if you feel that’s warranted. The main thing is to prioritize your wellbeing. Sending strength and clarity your way! 
Luna Echo, it’s important to be wary of “hot and cold” behavior as it can be a form of manipulation called “gaslighting,” where someone makes you doubt your own sanity and perception of reality, which is a big red flag in relationships and can lead to trauma bonding. Trust your instincts, but also remember to maintain healthy boundaries and self-care during this time.
Welcome, andrew_l, to the forum. It’s understandable that you want to protect yourself from potential heartbreak. The logical step is to gather information to evaluate your situation.
Here’s a breakdown to systematically address your concerns: First, observe his actions, noting consistency between his words and deeds. Then, consider the data: does his behavior align with expressions of love, or are there discrepancies? Finally, if you suspect insincerity, a direct conversation about your concerns is necessary.