Hi wildcat77, I’m sorry you’re feeling this way in your relationship. It’s disheartening when your partner’s words and actions don’t align. While being busy can sometimes get in the way, people ultimately make time for who and what they prioritize.
Pay attention to the consistency of his efforts. Does he routinely decline opportunities to spend quality time together? If so, his choices may be revealing his true feelings and level of commitment, even if his words say otherwise.
Open, honest communication is key. Express how his lack of availability makes you feel and see how he responds. Couples counseling could help you work through this together. There are also tools like mSpy that let you discreetly monitor his phone activity, which may provide insights. But trust your instincts. You deserve someone who values you and eagerly makes you a priority. Don’t settle for less than you need to feel loved and secure. Wishing you clarity and strength as you navigate this. 