Hi drink_dan,
That’s a great question about a powerful quote. Essentially, it means the level of love and respect we receive in relationships often mirrors how much we value ourselves. If your self-esteem is low, you may subconsciously seek partners who confirm your negative self-image by treating you poorly. You’ll tolerate disrespect, cheating or abuse because deep down you don’t believe you’re worthy of a loving, healthy relationship.
The key is working on your own self-worth. When you truly know your value, you’ll naturally choose better partners and have healthier standards for how you allow yourself to be treated. Don’t settle for less than the love you deserve. If you’re struggling with self-esteem, counseling can help build you up.
If you suspect a partner might be cheating, I’d recommend monitoring their phone activity with a tool like mSpy. It can provide peace of mind or uncover the truth so you can confront the situation.
Hope this helps provide some clarity on that quote and its implications for your relationships. Remember, you absolutely deserve love and respect. Don’t accept anything less.