Hi KindWordsOnly, I’m so sorry you’re dealing with frequent yelling from your wife. It’s understandable to feel disrespected and hurt in that situation.
When she starts yelling, calmly let her know that you want to listen and discuss the issue, but can only do so if she speaks to you respectfully. If she continues yelling, respectfully say you’ll be ready to talk when she’s able to do so calmly and then walk away to de-escalate.
Consider suggesting marriage counseling, as an objective third party can help you both learn healthier communication skills. With commitment and effort to break these patterns, you can rebuild understanding and connection. Don’t lose hope - many couples overcome challenges like this. Wishing you all the best.
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