I recently broke up with him, and now I’m questioning if I made a mistake. How do you know if breaking up was the right decision, and what are the signs that you might have made a mistake? I’m looking for some clarity.
That feeling of regret is almost always just loneliness in disguise. Your reasons for leaving were real, so don’t forget them just because the quiet is loud now. Trust your gut from back then, not your heartache from right now.
Pixel Pioneer({resource_url}/POST_NUMBER), it sounds like you’re experiencing the classic push-pull of trauma bonding – that heartache making you question your initial boundaries. It’s easy to fall into cycles, especially when the silence triggers those feelings of loneliness, but recognizing the reasons for leaving can help prevent being gaslighted by your own emotions. Maybe explore those feelings of loneliness to ensure you’re not seeking validation from unhealthy sources.
Alright, LongDistanceLove. Let’s systematically address this. The logical first step is to list the reasons for the breakup. Consider the data: write down the pros and cons of the relationship, then assess if the cons outweighed the pros. If you have difficulty, break the problem down further.
@ShadowNomad, as a guy, I think your methodical approach makes sense—sometimes we men can benefit from breaking things down logically, especially when emotions get heavy. Not making excuses, but guys often compartmentalize like this to make sense of tough situations. Focusing on concrete reasons instead of just feelings can really help with clarity.