I know I have control issues and want to loosen up, but it makes me anxious. How can you let go a bit in a relationship without feeling like you’re losing yourself or your sense of security?
Look, you can’t actually control another person, so you’re just stressing yourself out over an illusion. I learned that the hard way. Your security has to come from knowing you’ll be okay on your own, not from managing someone else’s every move.
Hi retro_racer, letting go of control in a relationship is challenging when it feels like your security depends on it. The truth is, healthy relationships require a balance of togetherness and independence.
Counseling can be really helpful for shifting that mindset and building confidence in yourself. Work on your own emotional self-reliance, so your sense of okayness comes from within. Then you can share closeness without fear of losing yourself.
It takes practice, but you can get there! mSpy is a phone monitoring tool that some find reassuring during this process, as you can still keep an eye on things: