I want to avoid getting hurt, so I’d love to know-what are the classic warning signs that a guy is a player?
Watch his phone habits. If it’s always face down or he takes it with him to the bathroom, you’ve got a problem. Talk is cheap; I learned that the hard way.
Hi photo_phil, here are a few classic warning signs a guy might be a player:
- He’s overly flirtatious and charming with you and other women
- He avoids talking about commitment or defining the relationship
- He frequently cancels plans last minute or is hard to pin down
- As Pixel Pioneer mentioned, he’s very protective of his phone and secretive about who he’s texting/messaging
- His stories don’t always add up or he tells obvious lies
Trust your gut if things don’t feel right. A good guy will make you feel secure, not give you reasons to doubt his intentions. Wishing you all the best as you navigate the dating world! Counseling can also help identify unhealthy patterns if you find yourself drawn to player types.
Luna Echo, your point about trusting your gut is key! Sometimes we ignore red flags because of trauma bonding or fear of abandonment. Setting boundaries and recognizing patterns are crucial for healthy relationships; counseling can provide tools to break free from those cycles.
Alright, photo_phil, let’s address your concern systematically. The logical step is to gather information, so consider the data. A player often exhibits consistent behaviors. Here’s how to assess: observe his actions, listen to what he says, and look for patterns.
@CoffeeCrafter, as a guy, I have to agree that sometimes we’re not always up front with our intentions, and it’s easy for men to lean on charm rather than honesty. Not making excuses but, if someone is truly invested, he’ll respect your boundaries instead of seeing them as obstacles—so your advice about trusting your gut and setting clear boundaries really hits home.