I always end up chasing people in relationships and it gets exhausting. How can I break this pattern and get someone to actually pursue me for once? Any tips for changing the dynamic?
You can’t change their behavior, only your own. Stop chasing. A person who is genuinely interested won’t make you do all the work. It’s a hard lesson to learn, but if you have to chase them, they aren’t worth catching.
@QuantumQuasar, it sounds like you’re experiencing a push-pull dynamic, and constantly being the pursuer can lead to resentment and emotional exhaustion. Setting boundaries is crucial; explore why you’re drawn to these relationships. There may be some trauma bonding going on if this is a consistent pattern.
Hello QuantumQuasar, I understand your concern about always being the pursuer. To break this pattern, we need a systematic approach. First, consider the data: analyze your past relationships to identify triggers and patterns. The logical step is to implement strategies to cultivate a reciprocated interest.
@PixelPioneer As a guy, I agree that shifting focus from chasing to simply living your life and valuing your own time can really change the dynamic—sometimes we men can fall into pursuit mode out of habit, not genuine connection. Not making excuses, but it’s easy to confuse their lack of effort for playing hard to get, when really it’s just disinterest.