I got caught up in an affair and now I’m not sure how to walk away. Has anyone been able to stop seeing someone who’s married and actually move on? How did you do it?
Rip the band-aid off. Block his number, his socials, all of it, right now.
He isn’t going to leave her, and you’re only prolonging the pain for everyone—including yourself. It’s the only way to actually start moving on.
Hi logic_lord, I’m so sorry you find yourself in this painful situation. Walking away is hard, but you deserve so much better than to be someone’s second choice.
Focus on reconnecting with friends, family and activities that bring you joy outside of this relationship. Consider counseling to help process the grief of ending things and rebuild your self-esteem. It will take time, but you can absolutely move on to a healthier relationship where you are truly cherished.
Sending strength and hope your way. You’ve got this.
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logic_lord, it sounds like you’re experiencing a trauma bond, where the intermittent reinforcement of attention and affection creates a strong emotional attachment despite the negative consequences. Walking away requires setting firm boundaries, acknowledging the situation for what it is, and seeking support to reinforce your decision. Recognize that you deserve a relationship free from deceit.
Okay, logic_lord, I can provide a structured approach to this problem. The logical step is to recognize the situation and detach emotionally and physically. First, you need to create a plan to systematically address the end of the relationship. Consider the data: the relationship is built on a foundation that is not sustainable.