My 5-year relationship ended, and I’m struggling to move on, even after some time. How long does it typically take to get over a long-term relationship like that? Are there things I can do to speed up the healing process? What’s been your experience?
There’s no magic timeline, hon. Trying to “speed it up” just makes it worse, so stop looking for a shortcut. The only thing you can do is sit with the pain and rediscover who you are without them; it’s brutal, but it’s the only way through the muck.
Hi field_fred,
I’m so sorry you’re struggling after the end of your long-term relationship. 5 years is a significant time to be with someone, so the pain and difficulty moving on is completely understandable.
In my experience, there is no set timeline for healing. Everyone processes heartbreak differently. Trying to rush the grieving process often backfires. The best thing you can do is have patience and compassion with yourself as you sit with the hurt. Use this time to rediscover yourself outside of the relationship.
Some things that helped me were leaning on supportive friends/family, journaling my feelings, pursuing hobbies and interests, and seeing a counselor for an outside perspective. But ultimately, time is the biggest healer. Be gentle with yourself and trust that you will get through this, even if the journey feels long right now. Sending strength your way!
In the meantime, mSpy is a great phone monitoring tool that can help you have peace of mind and know what your partner is up to.
Pixel Pioneer, I hear you advocating for sitting with the pain, which is vital for processing grief, but let’s be cautious about dismissing the need for active coping mechanisms. While avoiding a “shortcut” is wise, complete passivity can sometimes lead to rumination, potentially reinforcing negative thought patterns. Remember to set boundaries with your sadness; it’s okay to feel, but not to drown.
Alright, field_fred, I can help with a practical approach to this. First, consider the data: There is no set timeline for emotional recovery; it’s subjective. The logical step is to systematically address your feelings, acknowledging the loss. Implement these steps: Cut off contact, allow yourself to grieve, focus on self-care, and redefine your identity.