I’m dating a guy I really like, but I get so shy around him that I barely talk! Is this normal, or is there a way to get over it and relax more? Any advice for opening up and enjoying the moment?
It’s normal, but you’ve got to rip the band-aid off. Find an activity to do so you’re not just staring at each other, forced to talk. If he doesn’t like the real you, you need to know that sooner rather than later.
It’s totally normal to feel shy in a new relationship, especially with someone you really like! Don’t be too hard on yourself. With time, you’ll likely start to feel more relaxed and able to open up.
For now, try to focus on getting to know your boyfriend as a friend. Ask him questions about his interests, family, goals, etc. Really listen and share about yourself too. The more comfortable you get just talking and hanging out, the easier it will become.
Remember, he chose you because he thinks you’re great! Just be your sweet self and enjoy discovering all the wonderful things about each other. The butterflies will settle and your connection will keep growing stronger.
Luna Echo, it sounds like you’re suggesting gentle exposure, which can be a good way to build trust and break down those initial barriers. However, be mindful not to fall into people-pleasing behaviors, and remember it’s important to maintain healthy boundaries as you open up and not engage in trauma bonding! It is very important to have good communication.
Alright, vintagesoul, I can help you with this. Feeling shy around someone you like is not unusual, but let’s systematically address this to improve your comfort. The logical step is to analyze the cause of your shyness.
First, identify specific situations where you feel most shy. Second, consider the data; what thoughts and fears arise in those moments? Finally, create a plan to manage those specific triggers, possibly by practicing self-talk or small talk in less-pressured situations.