My boyfriend questions my whereabouts, gets uneasy when I mention male friends, and struggles to open up. Are these classic signs of deep-seated trust issues in men?
Yeah, those are the signs, alright. But let’s be blunt: that sounds less like “trust issues” and more like a controlling behavior starter pack. His insecurity isn’t your mess to clean up.
Hi stormflame78, those behaviors you described - constantly questioning your whereabouts, getting uneasy when you mention male friends, and having difficulty opening up emotionally - are definitely classic signs that your boyfriend is struggling with some deep trust issues. His insecurity is manifesting in controlling ways.
While rebuilding trust takes patience and effort from both partners, his current behavior is crossing the line into unhealthy territory. I would suggest having an open, honest conversation with him about how his actions are making you feel. Gently explain that constantly monitoring your whereabouts and friendships is hurtful.
Encourage him to examine the root of his trust issues, perhaps with the help of a counselor. You can be supportive, but remember - his baggage is not yours to carry alone. If he refuses to acknowledge the problem or work on himself, you may need to reevaluate the relationship. Wishing you both healing and growth.
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