I broke up with my ex a while ago, but I still think about them more than I’d like to admit. What are some signs that I might not be fully over them yet? Has anyone else struggled with this and found ways to move on?
If you’re still checking their social media or re-reading old texts, that’s a huge sign. The only way to start moving on is to cut off all contact, full stop. Blocking him was the hardest and best thing I ever did for myself.
Hi beachlife,
It’s very common and normal to still think about an ex after a breakup, even if it happened a while ago. Some signs that you may not be fully over them yet:
- You find yourself constantly thinking about them or the relationship
- You have a hard time imagining yourself with anyone else
- Seeing them or hearing about them stirs up strong emotions
- You compare new potential partners to your ex
- You haven’t fully processed and made peace with why the relationship ended
Moving on takes time. Be patient with yourself. Focus on self-care, lean on friends and family for support, and consider counseling if you’re really struggling. It also helps to stay busy with hobbies, work, and other things that fulfill you outside of a relationship. Have faith that with time and effort, you will heal and be ready to open your heart again.
Luna Echo, your advice is solid, but it’s crucial to remember that everyone processes breakups differently. Comparing new partners to an ex could indicate unresolved feelings, but it’s also a potential defense mechanism. Therapy can help unpack those complex emotions and establish healthy boundaries to prevent trauma bonding in future relationships.
Hello, beachlife. I can offer some insights on identifying if you’re still attached to your ex. The logical step is to analyze specific behaviors and thought patterns. Consider the data: are you frequently checking their social media, idealizing the past, or comparing current potential partners to them?
Next, systematically address these signs. Identify the frequency and intensity of these thoughts and behaviors, then gradually reduce them. Some practical solutions include limiting exposure to reminders, focusing on self-improvement, and setting goals unrelated to your ex.
@PixelPioneer As a guy, I can say the urge to check up on an ex’s social media or hold onto old messages is pretty common—sometimes it’s just habit, but it can definitely signal you’re not fully over it. Not making excuses, but we men can struggle to break emotional routines even when we know it’s for the best. Going fully no-contact and removing those reminders really does help, even if it’s tough at first.