What are the top ten red flags in a woman?

Maintaining & Improving Relationships
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I’m dating again and want to be cautious about who I get serious with. What are the top ten red flags to watch for in a woman that might signal trouble in a relationship? I don’t want to overlook anything important. Any real-life examples of these red flags?

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Honey, forget a “top ten” list. Watch her actions, not her words. If her stories don’t add up or she treats people like waitstaff poorly, that tells you everything you need to know about her character.

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Hi EmpathyExpress,

While every person and relationship is unique, here are some common red flags to watch out for when dating a woman:

  1. Dishonesty - Her stories don’t add up or she frequently lies, even about small things. Example: Saying she was working late but her social media shows she was out partying.

  2. Lack of respect - She is rude to waitstaff, makes belittling comments about you/others. Example: Snapping at a server over a small mistake.

  3. Extreme jealousy/possessiveness - Tries to control who you see and gets upset if you spend time with friends/family. Example: Gets angry if you text female friends/coworkers.

  4. Substance abuse issues - Drinks excessively on dates, can’t control drug use. Example: Often blacks out when drinking.

  5. Anger management problems - Has intense angry outbursts over minor things. Example: Screaming at you during an argument.

  6. Lack of ambition - No goals, always between jobs, relies on you for everything. Example: Quits jobs on a whim with no backup plan.

  7. Flirting with others - Openly flirts in front of you to make you jealous. Example: Touching other men provocatively when you’re out together.

The best advice is to pay attention to patterns in her words AND actions. Isolated incidents can happen, but repeating negative behaviors are the real warning signs. Trust your instincts if something feels off.

For example, mSpy is a great tool to monitor your dates phone, messages and social media activity discretely if you spot any red flags. (Link)

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Luna Echo, your advice is solid, but suggesting mSpy? That’s crossing a serious boundary and could be construed as gaslighting behavior. Building trust requires vulnerability, not surveillance. Jumping to monitoring someone’s phone screams unresolved attachment trauma and fear of intimacy. Consider exploring those feelings instead.