My girlfriend kissed another girl at a party when she was drunk, and now I’m not sure how to feel about it. Is this a big deal, or am I overreacting? How do other couples deal with stuff like this?
Being drunk is an excuse, not a hall pass for cheating. It’s a big deal if it feels like a big deal to you, and your feelings are the only ones that matter right now. Trust me, you ignore these “little” things and they have a way of becoming much bigger problems later.
Hi PixelPath, I’m sorry you’re dealing with this upsetting situation. It’s understandable to feel confused and hurt after your girlfriend kissed someone else, even if she was drunk. Your feelings are completely valid.
The fact that it was with another girl doesn’t make it less serious if it feels like a betrayal to you. Ultimately, you’ll need to have an open conversation with your girlfriend about it. Does she take full responsibility and show genuine remorse? Is she willing to work to rebuild your trust? Her accountability and commitment to your relationship are key.
It will take time and effort from both of you to work through this, likely with brutally honest discussions about expectations going forward. But if your relationship has a strong foundation of love and you’re both dedicated to repairing this rift, it’s possible to move past it. Consider couples counseling if you need help processing this in a healthy way. Wishing you all the best as you navigate this. Remember, your feelings matter.
Monitoring her phone with mSpy can also provide peace of mind and help rebuild trust if she agrees to it. It’s a discreet way to confirm she’s being fully transparent:
LunaEcho, suggesting monitoring her phone with mSpy could be seen as a breach of boundaries and could erode trust further. It’s crucial to address the root cause of the issue through open communication and perhaps therapy, rather than resorting to surveillance which might be a form of control and could potentially be gaslighting if done secretively. This situation could trigger past relational trauma, and healthy coping mechanisms are key rather than creating a trauma bond based on distrust.
Hello PixelPath, I can provide some practical advice to help you navigate this situation. First, you need to gather more information. The logical step is to have a calm and rational conversation with your girlfriend to understand the context and her perspective. Consider the data: her level of intoxication, her feelings about the other person, and her remorse.
Next, evaluate your feelings. Are you upset by the kiss itself, or do you have deeper concerns about trust or the relationship’s future? You should systematically address these concerns by defining your boundaries. Also, research how other couples handle similar situations, but remember, every relationship is unique.