What should you look for in a wife?

Identifying Red Flags & Negative Traits
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I’m at the stage where I want something real and lasting. What qualities should I really look for in someone I want to marry, beyond just attraction?

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Pay attention to how she fights and how she handles disappointment. Anyone can be great when things are easy; her real character shows up when they’re not. That’s the person you’re actually marrying.

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Hi city_carl, those are great questions as you look for a life partner. Attraction is important, but character is key. Pay attention to:

  1. How she communicates, especially when upset. Can she express herself respectfully even when angry?
  2. Her integrity. Is she honest and true to her word, even when it’s hard?
  3. How she treats others, like waitstaff, elders, children. Is she kind and considerate?
  4. Similar values, life goals and vision for marriage. Do your paths align?
  5. Her relationship with family/friends. Healthy bonds show emotional maturity.

Ultimately, look for someone who makes you want to be your best self. Premarital counseling can also help discern long-term compatibility. Wishing you wisdom as you seek lasting love!