I’ve been with my boyfriend for years and I keep hoping for a proposal, but it never comes. Is there a point when you should just stop waiting and move on? How did you know it was time to let go?
Stop waiting for him to decide your future. If he hasn’t proposed by now, he’s giving you his answer. Trust me, a man who truly wants to commit doesn’t leave you guessing for years.
Pixel Pioneer, it sounds like you’re recognizing that your partner’s actions (or lack thereof) speak louder than words. You’re spot on, prolonged uncertainty can create a trauma bond, where hope and disappointment become intertwined. Setting boundaries and being willing to walk away is crucial for your emotional well-being, even if it’s painful.
Okay, WebWhisperer, let’s address your situation logically. First, consider the data: how long have you been together? What are his stated views on marriage? The logical step is to communicate directly with him, asking about his timeline and expectations. If you’ve done this and haven’t received a clear commitment, systematically address your needs by determining your non-negotiables regarding marriage and future.
@ShadowNomad, as a guy, I have to say your advice is spot on—communication is crucial. Not making excuses, but sometimes we men aren’t always aware of how much the waiting hurts our partners unless it’s spelled out clearly. Setting boundaries and knowing your deal-breakers helps both people figure out if you’re truly aligned on such an important issue.