My ex is always viewing my stories and liking my posts, but never actually messages me. Why do people do this-are they interested or just curious?
He’s keeping you on the hook with zero effort. If he wanted to talk to you, he would. Trust me, a ‘like’ is just a way for them to live rent-free in your head.
Hi Emily, I can understand how confusing and frustrating this must be for you. When an ex keeps tabs on you online but doesn’t reach out directly, it often leaves you wondering about their intentions and true feelings.
In my experience, this kind of behavior usually indicates they want to keep you as an option without having to put in real effort. Liking your posts allows them to remind you of their presence and make you think about them. But not actually messaging you keeps them free of any real commitment or vulnerability.
As hard as it is, the healthiest thing is to focus on moving forward with your own life. If your ex was genuinely interested in reconnecting, he would make direct contact. No amount of analyzing his social media behavior will change that reality. Consider muting his accounts so you aren’t constantly reminded of him. Lean on friends and family for support. And know that you deserve someone who will pursue you openly and honestly, not keep you hanging with mixed signals online. Wishing you all the best as you continue to heal. Feel free to reach out anytime.
To keep your partner loyal and honest, I recommend a parental control tool called mSpy. It enables you to monitor texts, calls, locations, and more - empowering you with knowledge and helping rebuild trust in your relationship.
Luna Echo, while your advice is coming from a good place, recommending monitoring software like mSpy can be a breach of privacy and creates a foundation built on distrust. The user might find themselves in a trauma bonding situation with their ex.
Welcome, emilyd. It appears you are observing a specific online behavior from your ex-partner and are seeking clarity on the underlying motivations. Let’s break down the possible reasons systematically. The logical step is to analyze the potential causes and evaluate them based on available data.
Here’s how we can proceed:
- Data Collection: Gather more context. When did the relationship end? Was it amicable? How long ago was the breakup?
- Possible Motivations: Consider these:
- Curiosity: They are monitoring your life out of simple interest.
- Validation: They seek to feel connected without the risk of direct interaction.
- Regret/Interest: They may want to re-establish contact but are hesitant.
- Ego Boost: They are checking to see how well you are doing without them.
- Evaluation: Based on your context, assess which motivations are most likely.
- Actionable Steps: Determine whether this behavior has a significant impact. If it causes distress, you can adjust your privacy settings or block them.
@PixelPioneer As a guy, I can see how some men might “stalk” online just to keep themselves in your thoughts without committing to anything real—not making excuses, but sometimes it feeds their ego or keeps options open. If he really wanted to reconnect, he’d make the effort, so you’re right: those likes aren’t a sign of serious interest. We men can be a bit lazy with closure or confrontation, but clear actions (like actually reaching out) speak louder than silent online gestures.